You can't be a normal girl unless you've gossiped once or twice in your life. let's just face the cruel truth, a girl can't live without talking, and talking brings gossip and gossip actually make words spread like fire, as devouring, as burning, as fast as fire can be. I myself can't imagine a world without gossip, it'd be a better world for sure, it'd be a utopia. Just the thought of living in a place where no one talks about anyone and all live happily together ignoring the faults and mistakes of each other make one's heart flicker with happiness like a butterfly. It'd be the greatest thing ever. Just imagine that you're putting your head down the pillow and getting ready to have a good night's sleep and you just jump outta bed 'cause you're scared of what people would be saying about what you did with whoever and they didn't like it and then they start, just in the most spontaneous way, to count your mistakes, name your faults and make it hell for you. Now, capture this image, imagine yourself getting ready for a good night's sleep and you put your head down the pillow and you actually go in the deepest, some relaxing and calming sleep you've ever had just because you're sure there won't be thousand daggers stabbing you in your back and killing you slowly. You won't be afraid that your heart would be exposed to their bullet fast and cruel words.
Of course it's not usually as bad as this; as a matter of fact it is much worse. It's not exclusive to girls to gossip. The worst gossip ever is that of boys. It happens all the time and it's bad enough to know that boys are capable of spreading words and gossip faster than a society of women can. These are stated facts, nothing that I have invented. It's actually worse when a boy talks about a girl in her back. Boys are by nature harsher than girls and can be some pain in the ass more than a girl can be. He might not consider the feelings of a girl, not that another girl would do it but nevertheless she at least might understand, even in the slightest and shallowest manner, why another girl for example did what she did or said what she said. It's a whole world built up on theories and expectations and you have no vindication to what you say unless with experience and your experience is not a 100% trustful proof as not everyone is you and the third party is not like any other.
It happens all the time, this rotten, decaying society that by its turn result in a whole generation of a more rotten and decaying morals. Not stating that I'm not one of those, on the contrary, I'm a big gossiper myself. I kick ass in it. This is nothing that I'm proud of but it comes with anger and pain and grudge that I carry in my heart towards someone and then I explode and count the mistakes and faults of this someone. Just letting it all out makes us feel much relieved than before and we forget those whom we were just talking about and how it would hurt them to listen to what we were just saying and how it would feel like shooting them with daggers right in their hearts.
All I want to say is no one is an angel and no one can actually stop talking about anyone, or anything. As long as we have air in our lungs we'll keep on talking and talking and talking. We'd never stop or it'd be living a dead life, or turning into a ghost. Actually saying this reminds me with the ghost supper in The Ghost Sonata by August Steindberg. People lived together under the same roof and never talked in 20 years, this is death. It's just in the human nature, we can't stop talking and others can't stop listening. All I want to say is no matter if you talk or not, as long as we live we'll talk and gossip; but when you talk remember this, put yourself in the shoes of that third party you're talking about and see if you'll like it. If you do then go on with it, if you don't then knock it off and drop the act and say "I'LL NOT BE TALKING ABOUT HIM/HER IN THE BACK, IF I GOT SOMETHING I'LL SHOOT IT AT THEIR FACE" and yes it would make trouble but it'd be better to give them a piece of your mind than just cutting in their flesh when you talk in their back.
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